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There is only one thing to open this week's newsletter with, and it may cause a few of you to unsubscribe!...

COYS!

Now, for those that don't know, that stands for Come On You Spurs! As a lifelong Tottenham Hotspur fan I have seen the ups and downs of following my club, but this week we won our first trophy in 18 years as we become Europa League Champions.

What made it even more special, was that I got to watch and celebrate it with my Spurs mad daughter! A moment and memory that will last forever!

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Time Anxiety: Why Retirees Are Still Rushing Through Life

“I thought I’d have more time.”

It’s one of the most common phrases I hear from people after they retire.

Not less time.
Not worse time.
But a strange sense that time has become… slippery.

You finally escape the 9-to-5, only to find yourself sprinting through the days as if they’re going to evaporate if you don’t squeeze everything in.

And underneath it all, a quiet pressure builds:

“Am I using my time well enough?”

Welcome to time anxiety... retirement’s sneakiest side effect.

When Time Becomes a To-Do List

Retirement is often sold as time freedom. But what many retirees experience instead is time pressure.

Here’s how it sneaks up on you:

• You create the perfect post-retirement bucket list.
• You try to make every day “productive,” even though you’re supposedly done with that life.
• You feel guilty if a day is “wasted” (read: restful).
• You see others “making the most of it” and wonder if you’re doing it wrong.

In short, you traded the calendar of your employer… for the calendar of your expectations.

Where Is This Pressure Coming From?

Let’s be clear: this isn’t a time management problem. It’s a story problem.

You’ve been told that:

• Retirement is the reward for years of hard work.
• Time is now yours, so don’t waste it.
• You must use this chapter to finally do everything you didn’t have time for.

But when you carry that story into daily life, it turns your time into a ticking clock instead of a space to breathe.
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Every slow morning, every unproductive afternoon, every nap in a sunbeam starts to feel like a missed opportunity.

You Don’t Need to Maximise Every Moment

Here’s the truth most people won’t say out loud:

You don’t have to earn your retirement time by filling it.

Some of your best days might look quiet on paper: no milestones, no photos, no proof. But they feel like yours. That’s what matters.

Slow is not wasted. Rest is not lazy. Doing nothing is sometimes doing exactly what your soul needs.

Fix This: Redesign Time Around Meaning, Not Metrics

You don’t need a better schedule, you need a better relationship with time.

Try this:

1. List 3 ways you’d love to spend an ordinary Tuesday.​
   Not a bucket list day. Just a simple, meaningful day. Then ask: what’s stopping you from doing that more often?
2. Notice where time feels abundant.​
   Pay attention to the moments that make time stretch, not shrink. Deep conversations, quiet walks, slow breakfasts.
3. Let go of the “shoulds.”​
   If you wouldn’t feel guilty doing nothing on a holiday, why feel guilty on a Tuesday in retirement?

Retirement isn’t a productivity challenge.
It’s not a race.
It’s not a highlight reel.

It’s a season of life, just as complex, messy, and beautiful as all the ones before it.

So take your time.
Seriously.
It’s yours now.

RETIREMENT RESOURCE

The Relationship Plan Worksheet

This weeks resource is a worksheet I've put together to help you start to think about your relationships in your retirement.

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SKETCH OF THE WEEK

The Retirement Puzzle

VIDEO OF THE WEEK

Can You Afford To Retire? - 3 Questions To Ask Yourself

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RETIREMENT ARTICLES

What I've read this week

• The 6 Weirdest Things That Happen To You After 50 - Future You Cambridge​
• 6 Top Tips to Successfully (Un)Retire - Carl Landau​